After the last month of working cattle and going to open shows, Will and I took the weekend to go watch the Simmental Show at the Iowa State Fair. Unfortunately, we did not show cattle down there this year, as being in Africa would put us too fair behind. We learned that it is a lot more relaxing watching for the bleachers but we also know that we can't sell cattle from there. Working, eating and sleeping farm is hard work on its own, but add in a full time job and a sassy 2 year old and the days are really wearing on me. Doing anything takes 4 times as long with a girl on your hip. Don't get me wrong, I love all the farm has to offer, but I need to learn how to better manage my time. I am always expected to take care of everyone else. Making appointments, running errands, going here, running there, do this, do that, along with make supper, do laundry, bath night. No where in there do I see, take care of yourself. Will always asks me to make a list of things that I need done that he could help me with. Needless to say I made a list 4 months ago and the only things crossed off are the things that I did. Frustrated is my favorite word anymore. I know we are both busy and he is handling what he can, but multitasking is something he can't do. I find myself spending my half hour lunch break doing errands for everyone else that most the time I don't have time to eat.
The Chickasaw County Extension Office is sponsoring a workshop about well being and I am really working hard on trying to establish some boundaries to improve my well being. I am learning that I need to say "no" more when people ask me to help them out, especially the ones that don't like to return the favors when I need them. I am learning to take time to myself in order to 'reset' from the day and prepare for the new one. I am a work in progress that's for sure!
dear Heather, each one of us is truly a constant work in progress! One word that helps me / us is "priorities," knowing what takes precedence and being in sync with each other about it. Farming and church work have certain similarities :) with love, Irmgard
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